On Tuesday we had breakfast with the fabulous Kerry Manning Colson from Fabuliciousfifty and she asked two questions that really had me thinking.
What is your Value?
What is your Word of the Year?
Everyone had these amazing answers! Truth. Being real. Everyone except me. There I sat, at a loss for an answer. So eventually, when my turn came, I said I value Beauty. I love beautiful things. I do. There, I’ve said it. I know it sounds so incredibly shallow compared to everyone else’s answers, but there is more to this than meets the eye.
Yes, I love beautiful things – my home is proof of it, BUT, it goes deeper. I also love making people feel beautiful. And not just on the outside. I do love a good make over – hair, make up, clothes – but those things only make you happy for a while. I will be overjoyed when I finally fit into my clothes again, but I know that feeling won’t last forever. Unless you are happy with who you are, no amount of weight-loss, make up or beautiful clothes will really make a difference.
Irv: Derice, a gold medal is a wonderful thing. But if you’re not enough without one, you’ll never be enough with one.
So how do I am make sure I am happy with who I am? That I am enough? Well, for starters – make sure you like who you are. You will never be happy with who you are if you don’t like yourself. And yes, we all have something in ourselves that we don’t like, that we are working on, that should change (it should be that way) – BUT – there should be more that you like than what you dislike!
For the last two years now, in stead of making new years resolutions that won’t even see the second week of January, I sit and evaluate the year that has been. I take a good hard look at myself. Did I achieve my goals? What did I learn the last year? What qualities do I still have that need to change?
- What are my strengths?
- What are my weaknesses?
- What do I believe about myself that is keeping me back? What is it that causes me not to try new things?
- What is the reason that I do not finish what I have started?
- What are the actual roadblocks that are keeping me from moving on?
Only when I have answered these questions honestly (definitely not meant for anyone else’s eyes) I set new goals for the year to come.
I set goals for the following areas:
- Romance (Marriage/relationship)
- Family en friends
- Personal growth
- Physical environment (house, garden, etc.)
From these goals I make a Vision or Goal board for the year. I look at it often, and evaluate myself.
I’m not by any means saying that this is the ultimate and I am now the best version of me. No, I am and always will be, a work in progress. Inside and out.